YES!!!!!!!
Men feel like men when they are wanted by their wives.
It can’t be said any more plain than this. There is nothing to read into. It is what every man thinks and doesn’t say (to you)…and seems to be the very thing relationship books and therapists refuse to address while men everywhere talk about it as if the only way they can get this kind of attention is by playing musical mattress and avoiding marriage altogether
Signs a person might be lying to you:
1. Looking up and left when asked a question (when they do this they are accessing their creative/future side, not a past memory).
2. They lock-stare into your eyes in an attempt to prove their honesty. Most people in conversation speak in a “triangle” pattern with their eyes, observing your eyes, mouth, and forehead.
3. Hard swallowing
4. Abnormal voice inflection
5. As they are telling you what happened, they avoid contractions like “Don’t” instead opting for “Do not”, “Did not” replaces a usual “Didn’t”, and “That is” will replace “That’s”. For some reason, to the liar, this language sounds more authoritative.
6. They try and interject humor when none is appropriate in an attempt to lighten the situation.
7. Mis-matched/delayed body language (remember body language is over half of communication).
Hopeless romantics will go out of their way to let you know how much they love you, but this will not last forever if you aren’t verbally acknowledging it .
You can’t expect sustained romance without sincere appreciation for the gesture(s) done to demonstrate romance.
Men are like over-grown 3rd graders. Every time we color a picture, we do it for you. Guys want, no, need you to make a big deal out of what they do. Brag about him whenever you can. Tell your friends (in a loud voice over the phone) how lucky you are, because in the heart of every good guy resides a pleasing nature
Five things (almost) every guy thinks but doesn’t say…
Give us something good to live up to. If we overhear you saying to your friends “how romantic you think we are” or “how proud you are that we still go to the gym”, we will try like hell to not let you down. In fact, letting YOU down is probably the worst feeling in the world…(really!). Keep in mind, while you were dreaming about being rescued, we were putting on superhero outfits imagining the same. That doesn’t change with age.
Super sweet and non-combative doesn’t make you a doormat, it makes you a powerful force that we can’t say No to. When you bat your eyes and ask for something in a sweet tone, 98.2% of the time you will get it…eventually. When your forehead frowns and you demand things like a child or worse talk down to us, you’ll get a fight or worse, quiet resentment. Grandma was right, honey always beat vinegar.
Reward us when we do well. When little Johnny does well at school do you take him out for ice cream or say “well its about time son”? Men work the same way, only we don’t need ice cream or cookies, PRAISE is our box of double-stuffed Oreo’s and its worth its weight in gold.
Believe it or not we want you to participate in our hobbies, we just don’t want you to complain about it the entire time you are doing it. If I had a dollar for every guy I knew that said…“You play golf with your wife…what an idiot”! Look, I don’t care if its movie fest weekends, playing backgammon at a coffee bar, playing video games at 10 p.m., or (God forbid) shopping (which I like to do)…people that share some of the same hobbies live longer, happier lives, together. People that say “Hello” and “Goodnight” essentially five days a week…don’t.
Embrace our honesty and loyalty to you. My wife used to say, “I like your honesty, I just don’t like the brutal part”. I know it doesn’t make sense that we tread easy on people we sort of like and with you, we give the kitchen and the sink when you ask us something. Men think people that tell you what you want to hear instead of what you need to hear aren’t really friends and unlike you gals, we don’t keep people around just because they spare our feelings on a semi-regular basis. The fact is, we can lie to people all day long…except the people we truly care about. So when you tell us a friend repeatedly hurts your feelings, standing up for you is our prime concern, not how long you have been friends. When your mother is still trying to control your life well into adulthood, we take your side, not hers. And when you want the truth on what something looks like on, we are more likely to tell you what you already know, not because we are heartless, but because we truly care. If your man ever starts sugarcoating things, thats when I would be concerned. Just remember, truth is care serum.
Telling your wife where you are going and what time you will return isn’t being “whipped” or “hen-pecked”, its called being respectful.
What if there is an emergency and she can’t find you?
What if she wanted to surprise you with dinner when you got home?
What if she had something she wanted to do when you returned?
The men I know that make a habit of letting their wives know what’s going to happen before it happens undoubtedly have the most freedom and trust in their marriage vs. the secretive ones, but for some reason guys that don’t follow this advice think the opposite is true? Being resentful and coy automatically makes a woman’s uneasy, and for good reason.
Your marriage should be an open book and the more closed off you make it, the more you will feel like you married Sherlock Holmes and she may feel like she married Lee Harvey Oswald
To Love
Luke 14:26
“If you want to be my disciple, you must hate everyone else by comparison-your father and mother, wife and children, brother and sister-yes, even yopur own life. Otherwise, you cannot be my disciple.”
O God, your grace is abondant. You are truly an awesome God. How, Lord, can I love you like you say I should? How can I love you more than my precious wife? What does that look like? Was it like it was in high school when I had a real devotional time before school? There has to be more. Show me, Lord, what it looks like to love you so much that it would look like I hate everything else in comparison.
In Jesus precious and holy name I pray.
The blessed life of Georgia Christy, to strangers who read the paper, has been sum up to a five year career. As I read it today, I couldn’t believe the lack of information. It read like its an everyday occurrence. Well, she was not just some ordinary person. She was so much more. She was a sweet mother to her four children. She was a great grandmother to her grand kids. She was always concern about her family and always helped out as much as she could. She loved her husband dearly and is now with him. She loved the Lord and served him until the end. She is so much more than what a stranger would read in the paper. So much more.
My Honest Prayer
O gracious heavenly Father,
If there was only one thing that I could ask for, it would be for focus. My focus has been on everything but you, Lord. I focus on work, games, my precious wife that you have blessed me with, the wonderful kids that you have blessed us with, and other physical things yet my focus only goes to you for less than half hour a day. Help me, O Lord, to focus my thoughts on You and your ways. Focus my mind on things that are eternal instead on only things that are carnal. I have choked out the fire I had in my youth with all the distractions of life. Now that most of the junk is gone, my focus has been revieled as broken on the ground. Fix it, Father, like only you can. Please show me mercy and forgiveness for putting everything above you. I need you.
